In a relationship, fighting over any issue is very common. We often fight on issues like having no quality time, going out, household topics. In most of the cases, we blame our partner and say he/she is responsible for the problem, it is his/her fault, all the issues are due to his/her, etc.
Making a person accountable for an issue in your relationship is common. However, having fights frequently and stay away from your partner are not suitable for you and your relationship. For a better life, you should stop the blame game in your relationship. Here are six simple tips to improve your relationship from the blame game:
1. Be the owner of the situation
Avoid finding out who causes the problem and how much his/her contribution is. The best way is that you (wife/husband or lover/beloved) should take ownership of the situation. Also, you should look for what you can do to save your relationship from any embarrassment. Here is more:
- Take points away and focus on the future, which is critical for both of you
- Make sure that you won’t fight on the same issue next time
2. Communicate with your partner
Communication helps us in solving all the issues we have. By communicating with your partner, you can know what your spouse and you are experiencing. You will have an idea of what created such a situation and how to get rid of it. The best way is that you should stay apart from the fighting and start conversing with your wife/husband or lover/beloved after one or two hours of the fight. Here is how you can communicate:
- Talk to him/her when he/she is calm
- Stay away from being aggressive
- Be cool and stay calm while talking over the issue
- Talk to him/her with love and care
- Experience positive outputs after having conversation
3. Response to yours and your partner’s feelings
You need to be responsive to yours and your partner’s feelings. When your partner comes to talk to you, or you go to talk to your partner, both of you must be responsive. You should pay attention to what he/she is telling you. He/she takes a cue from it when you are sensitive to your partner’s feelings.
4. Stop further development in your mind
We incline to attribute causation and meaning to our experiences with other people. These experiences create negativities in our mind, and we start thinking negatively about our relationship that can lead a relationship in a worse condition than its reality. You need to stop the further development of any wrong ideas about your relationship with your partner.
5. Have patience
Having patience is the key to nurture a relationship. You need to maintain it. With it, you will be able to face all challenges together and soften the differences between you and your partner. Moving forward and being relaxed & receptive will help you stop blame game in your relationship. Subsequently, your relationship will have reduced or no conflicts.
6. Find another perspective
In your relationship, you should view the situation from a different angle. With this, you will have another aspect. You don’t need to feel down instantly in a situation. However, you should take your step back and try to comprehend the reasons that cause your partner to behave differently. You will sort out the issue soon.
Conclusion
A relationship is valuable. It needs to be nurtured with love and care. By having mutual understanding, you can easily face all the challenges of your life. Value your partner’s feelings and talk about the issue if there is anything between both of you. With positive communication and response, you will have a happy and enjoyable life.